When Weddings Work

As a self identified tech and media nerd I never imagined I'd be sitting here writing about the trappings of life and love having been so very casual with both for most of my life. Yet that casual nature has provided me with possibly a more modern perspective than most and so, here we are.

One of the biggest associations we have with weddings is where they're being held and who's performing them. In the traditional sense, those two are always churches and priests respectively and the performances are generally all the same; they drone on about God, followed by several bible verses (usually the same ones) about marriage as it existed 1000 years ago, ya' know, before women were considered people and consent didn't exist. All in all, it just doesn't feel genuine when the same words spoken at your ceremony have been repeated for millions of others across time.

Yet here we are, in the modern era, still adhering to wildly outdated traditions because, for the most part, better alternatives simply didn't exist. In an age where a startling number of marriages don't last; it has become necessary to take a closer look at just what goes on during your big day, particularly given the rise of agnostic and atheistic viewpoints in society.

So if we don't focus on the man in the sky and how other men on the ground want to define us, what do we talk about? Well... you. A Humanist ceremony is all about the people it's being held for, be it good, bad or silly. In fact, studies show that more intimate and personal ceremonies help establish a more solid groundwork for better and longer lasting marriages. It is with that in mind that Happy Humanist Weddings game plan is to get to know each person involved to the best possible extent. It is only then that your ceremony becomes truly unique and your wedding works.